Let’s Happily Disagree During The Holidays … Ho! Ho! Ho!

By Cindy O’Connell & Dr. Susan Fell

Perhaps its wishful thinking — but imagine a world where civil discourse is prevalent in the midst of chaotic change.  Where differing ideas can be discussed without personal attacks. And if leadership or management shifts had to occur in an organization, these could be accomplished respectfully without long-held malice or verbal fist-a-cuffs governing the process.

That is what I wish for this holiday season.

Recently, I was at a community board meeting where I volunteer my time and where a management change was ensuing and agreement for the transition for a respectful change in leadership had been planned.

When suddenly the transition turned sour, pre-existing internal strife rose to the surface among the stakeholders, resulting in emotional outbursts and very hurt feelings with little positive resolution.

Clearly, George Washington’s Rules of Civility were not applied. For example –Wherein you reprove another, be unblameful yourself. For Example is more prevalent than precepts. Or, “use no reproachful language against anyone, neither curse or revile.”  

Lets’ try this holiday season to apply just one of these rules with our personal and professional dealings.  Maybe just maybe if we can begin one conversation or written exchange, by first checking our tongues with our coats and reflect on Mr. Washington’s rules (a.k.a., The Golden Rule) perhaps civility can rule our hearts this season and into the New Year.   Merry Christmas.

Cindy O'Connell

About the Authors: Cindy O'Connell, is a veteran marketing executive having worked as Secretary of the Florida Lottery 2011- Fall 2015. She currently serves as the inaugural Director of the Florida Prepaid College Foundation located in Tallahassee, Florida. Her volunteer Board assignments include five gubernatorial appointments (2001-2011) service on the University of Florida Trustee Board. Dr. Susan Fell grew up in Tallahassee and attended Florida State University, earning a Bachelor of Arts in Art History and a Master of Science in Adult Education. She later attained a doctor of philosophy in Leadership in Higher Education from Barry University. She is currently serving as a consultant in higher education for the Registry for College and University Presidents. Dr. Fell retired from St. Petersburg College where she served as Director of Admissions and Registrar, she has returned to her hometown.

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